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Dani Stover

May 21, 2009 @ 15:53

Dani Stover is a friend and the producer of the Dean Blundell Show on 102.1 The Edge.

Here is one of her blog entries from last week... It's fantastic!... She's a darlin'.

Hi everyone!

So I'm going to let you all in on a little secret... well, it's not a secret really, but something I want to share. It's something that I've been dealing with for quite some time - a few years, at least. It's depression! Yay ME!

The reason I feel the need to be open about this condition is because, with clinical depression comes a lot of stigma. And there's no need for it. One in five people suffer from some sort of depression. And I'm not talking about occasional sadness or periods of feeling distressed or miserable. I'm talking about feeling day-to-day sadness, anxiety, pessimism and helplessness.

Now I realize I have a lot to be thankful for, and happy about. And if it were only that easy... well, then I wouldn't be writing this blog.

But think of it this way: if you had (or have) diabetes, you would be expected to do something about it. People wouldn't typically judge you for having to take insulin everyday. Depression is, for all intents and purposes, the same thing. Good mental health is just as important as good physical health - it's essential to a balanced lifestyle.

I read a statistic that says only one in three depressed women will seek professional help and though women experience depression twice as often as men, men are three times more likely to commit suicide.

Depression is said to be genetic, and I have reason to believe that several of my family members had or do suffer from it. But I find the more you talk about it, and share your stories with other people, the more you find that you're not alone. One of the most important things is sustaining a strong support system and encouraging positive relationships.

That's where I'm pretty lucky. I love my job, and I work with really cool people. I have a great family and terrific friends. I live downtown and I am experiencing the wonderful things Toronto has to offer, but it's not always as easy as simply counting your blessings and snapping out of the funk.

There are a lot of great web sites out there with a lot of really useful information - and being informed is the first step towards feeling better, whether it's you who is suffering, or someone you care about.

So I want to reduce the stigma behind depression. It's more common than you think, and there's no shame in asking for help or sharing your stories with others!


I'm not alone here, am I? Start talking - you might be surprised how good it feels to share with people who are feeling the same way you do!


Anyways, I hope this blog entry isn't too boring. I have just been feeling a little low lately, and I thought, why not share that with you guys! You lucky bastards... :)

Be happy and be safe!

By the way Dani, it was great to see you at the Humble and Fred 20th Anniversary Podcast of Memories.

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12 Responses to "Dani Stover"


Argie
May 21, 2009 / 17:14

Wow, it took a lot of courage on her part to admit she has depression.

I know most people will disagree with me but I have a solution for her: attend church, speak to a priest (a good one, not the usual lame ones) and receive the sacraments. I can almost guarantee her depression will disappear within months - trust me, Dani.


Horonymous
May 21, 2009 / 17:32

Corporate Canada and most businesses treat depression as leprosy and try to push employees out.


Pauly Walnuts
May 21, 2009 / 18:09

Argie, I know you're going to get ripped a new one.

I'd have laughed at your comment also if I didn't personally know 3 instances where what you have written is true.


Pat
May 21, 2009 / 22:49

Clinical Depression here as well. It can be dealt with when you work at it.


The Friendly Atheist
May 22, 2009 / 10:43

Dani - don't worry there is probably no god. Relax and enjoy life.

Atheism Facts:

100% Totally logical
100% Hones
100% Rational
0% Myth base

Not a significant source of religious bigotry and self-deception.


Argie
May 22, 2009 / 12:25

Atheist: You got the slogan wrong (try re-typing it). Also, what is 'hones'?


Tim
May 22, 2009 / 12:49

Religion isn't about reality as we know it, but faith.
You believe in yourself you can do well in life. Believe in God and do better.


Doug
May 22, 2009 / 13:12

Can understand Dani's comments.
My mother has suffered for 30 yrs...thank GOD for medication and ECT therapy..
Genetic - yes I believe so.
Personally, I think regular exercise can assist but in many cases medication is a must.


Andrew
May 22, 2009 / 14:39

Oh, Atheist....sad that you can't let people use religion as a way to deal with the world we live in.

As much as you hate religion you cannot say that a true follower of the bible causes any problems.

When I say true followers I don't mean the zealots that dominate the news.

If Danni visits the site then I hope she does find some comfort in the support that she has.


Mikey
May 22, 2009 / 20:01

Andrew: Define "true follower."

I guarantee if you truly follow the bible people will think you're a pretty big asshole, what with all the killing and raping you'd be doing.

Tim: Saying a person is being held back by not believing in a god is beyond silly.

Um, if there is a god, why doesn't this god just not make people depressed. In my eyes, it's pretty self-indulgent and sick to make people suffer with the only cure being rituals meant to worship you.

Recommending a religion-only solution to someone who has a serious medical problem is downright dangerous. Tell someone diagnosed with cancer to forgo chemo and talk to a priest, and see what kind of reaction you'd get.


Andrew
May 22, 2009 / 20:16

Mikey:

"I guarantee if you truly follow the bible people will think you're a pretty big asshole, what with all the killing and raping you'd be doing."

You have just shown your ignorance. But this is not the topic at hand.

Your cancer statement goes beyond ignorance.

Depression usually requires medication and therapy. Argie's point that religion would most likely help is a good one. It is not the only solution but worked with medication could provide some relief.


Nookie
May 23, 2009 / 12:19

T lover-read a few books.


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